So What I’m Still A Rock Star

Guess I just lost my husband I don’t know where he went. So I’m gonna drink my money I’m not gonna pay his rent.

Well that’s not entirely true, see if you are new to my blog my husband is in the Air Force and has been away a lot this year already training for deployment to the Middle East, yes in the middle of some nasty war. Well the time snuck up on us and he’s now been gone for two weeks which explains why I haven’t had time to give much needed attention to my blog. I have also been tossing up if I should even mention it on the world wide web, for many reasons but it is what it is and it makes us who we are. Makes me want to share with you all how I go about life on my own with the three kids, keeping everything running and as normal as possible. How if I can find time to raise three happy kids, pay the bills, run the entire house, deal with all the boy jobs and all the parenting, and stay happy, fit and healthy maybe you can get something out of it.

Our situation is a little unique, I am sure many of you have husbands who travel for work but mine can be away for months at a time, and this is another one of those times. It’s also not the first time he has been deployed there so the fear factor isn’t really there for me, can’t dwell on it or the kids will pick it up. How do I get on with my sh*t, I play Pinks song So What as loud as I can stand and pump myself up for whatever I need to get through that day. It just hits something inside me, that we all have this pre-programmed idea that we can’t do ‘stuff’ without a man around, and it’s just not true. I’ve believed it before, I really thought I had to wait until he gets home to change the light globe, smoke alarm battery, service the car and mow the lawns. I’ve done my time sitting around waiting for the phone to ring, hoping he is ok, but it just gets you down and you feel lonely and dependent. So I have learnt now the best way to deal with this is to switch to survival mode and take everyday as it comes remembering that it doesn’t mean that because he isn’t around I should sit around feeling lonely it means that I am strong enough to do it by myself.

Don’t get my wrong, I miss my husband “Hey You”, I just have to have this bulletproof attitude to pull this sh*t off! I am doing everything for everyone in this house, I am up early everyday with the kids, I am on the go all day everyday and that’s just how it is. I don’t get much of a break, only during school and kindy hours. I am not complaining I am merely stating that if you believe you are strong enough you can get through anything. So by believing I’m still a Rock Star and I’ve still got my rock moves I can get through anything these kids can throw at me. So next time you are in a situation that seems completely overwhelming, you need to sing in your head and channel your inner Rock Star because she is still in there I promise.

Renee

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